I'm Falling for a GUJU Boy!

October 22, 2008

Dear Div,

My Punjabi culture is very important to me. Some day I want to marry a Punjabi man and have Punjabi kids and Punjabi in-laws. The problem is that there is a boy that I am really attracted to. Unfortunately, he is not Punjabi. However, he is Indian like me and has all the other qualities I desire in a partner, which are otherwise very difficult to find. I'm afraid of getting close to him now because it might be difficult to pull away later... but I really, really like him! I'm confused. Help!

Sincerely,
Confused Punjabi Girl

Dear CP-G,

As an impartial party, I would first like to commend you on your choice of Punjabi men. I hear that they are not only extremely good looking, but also amazing dancers and athletes. That being said, it is completely understandable that you would want a Punjabi man in your life. Here is how to solve your problem: You can enroll this prospect in the Punjabi Training Program (PTP) which will get him properly trained in the Punjabi ways. After a few short weeks you won't even notice that he is not Punjabi. In this program your prospect will learn how to dance Bhangra, be loud, speak Punjabi, and if you’re lucky, even learn how to rhyme/make up words (i.e. Drink “chaa chu” or “pani shani”). This is an intense training program. However, my research indicates that it has a 90% success rate for those who complete the full course.

If the PTP seems like too much of a process or out of your price range, I have one other suggestion. Ask yourself one simple question:

Is he worth it?

Granted you found someone whom you feel has a lot of the qualities you want, but there are still major qualities that you were looking for in a mate that are missing. Since it is early in the relationship, you should ask yourself if this guy is worth the possibility of compromising your idea of an ideal husband? It is better to ask yourself this now before you get emotionally attached. Regardless of which way you decide to go, I would always recommend being straight forward with this person. If you decide to be with him, it is always good to lay your cards out on the table early so that you are both aware of this issue that needs to be addressed. If you decide not to be with him, at least you’re letting him know why so he doesn’t have major self esteem issues later on in life.

Now to focus more on your specific question, you said, “I'm afraid of getting close to him now because it might be difficult to pull away later” which leads me to believe you are not planning on sacrificing your cultural ideals for this guy. If this is the case, then I do not suggest getting close to this guy in a romantic way at all because you’re right, you will end up getting hurt in the long run. Rather than wasting your time on him, I know a great Punjabi guy you may be interested in. I’ve listed his email address below, so go ahead and send him a picture and a description about yourself and I’m sure he’ll get in touch with you.

Div@billomagazine.com

- Div

Comments

[malik koti]

are u the guy i hooked up with at the last benefit bhangra....thanks for calling me back a-hole

[Smetha Kaur]

HE DID THAT TO ME TOO! jackass!

[mega manchanda]

I completely agree with the advice given! haha, i think im loving this section of billo!

[Nikhil A.]

yeah, i definitely agree with the advice. If you're not willing to sacrifice the whole cultural aspect for the long run, then don't bother putting yourself through all the bakwaas of the repercussions.

[Savi K.]

LMFAO!~ great advice, go with what he says chicka!~ Punjabi-a-tize him! lmfao.

[M.]

The advice makes sense... and I get why people are supporting him, I still think it should be situationally based.. he may be willing to accept and embrace the Punjabi ways.

culture is the most important thing and we want to make sure we hold onto it, but what better way to embrace and hold onto it then by spreading its positive affects to other people that are willing to experience it.

[True Blue]

make him shop at subzi mandi instead of patel cash and carry

[T man Singh]

Hahahha. great advice. I think i like this column. good stuff!

[tanzia]

how does punjabi-fying the boy going to help her get a REAL punjabi boy...i mean yea he will be pretty much punjabi but what about his parents...she also wants punjabi-in-laws?

[Ryad Huda]

I WORSHIP YOU DIV! YOU ROCK MY WORLD!!

[Punjabi Shava]

Oye aaj khushi da din hai aya, nikla mahurat changa bhai..

Suit pehn ke ban gaya dulha, kal tak tha jo nanga.. oye balle...

Kar waalon ka naam na lena, bachhe dar jeyenge siyappa payenge..

peet peet ke chatthi siyappa payenge.. oye chalo dol waliyo, vand vaaja le kar aao oye..

[Anita K. Mehta]

Great advice column Div! I'm so proud to have a friend like you who is so dedicated about helping all the lost and confused people out there. Keep up the good work buddy! :)

[P.]

Punjabi guys are extremely good looking.

[P.]

Punjabi guys are extremely good looking.

[P.]

Punjabi guys are extremely good looking.

[sheena]

what are you supp to do when ur stuck in jersey and the indian male population is 95% guju?

bye shai